Some initial resistance should be expected. After all, this is something new you are trying to accomplish and it needs to be explained, understood, incorporated into our mindset. But sometimes obstacles arise -- disguised as slow progress, perhaps even stagnation, frustration.
Do you push harder or step back a moment to analyze the path you are on?
I have found when this happens there is something about the issue that I'm doing all wrong. The 'all wrong' part is cleverly disguised! In my mind the path I am on is totally right! The natural tendency is to start forcing it -- "I'm sure if I just worked harder, longer, stronger I can persevere!". While that may be true in some circumstances, the majority of the time that thought should sound a warning bell in your head.
Think about:
- If the resistance is coming from another person or organization, are you goals in conflict with someone else's goals?
- Put yourself in their shoes. Have you really "walked a mile in their moccasins"?
- Find common ground. Usually both parties want a resolution as quickly as possible. Be creative in thinking of alternative approaches for solutions. Can compromises be made that still achieve the goals of both parties?
- Don't get stuck focusing on differences of approach and focus on closure and resolution. Be optimistic and positive toward achieving the goals of both parties. Be pleasant yet resolute.
- This is a good time to remember one of Steven Covey's 7 Laws -- focus first on seeking to understand and secondly on being understood.
- If this is something you are trying to achieve by yourself, analyze what part seems to be out of balance or rhythm with the rest. Where are you feeling unsteady or uneasy?
With a little analysis and perhaps some discussion with others you can zero in on what is 'all wrong' and plot a path to get it totally right. Working harder is not always working smarter.
